"Dr. John Dewey said that the deepest urge in human nature is "the desire to be important.'"
What a bold, yet true statement. So in the simplest terms, if you want to get someone to do something for you, make them feel important. How do you make someone feel important? Appreciate them! You can't just do it to blow smoke though. You have to actually mean it!"We often take our spouses so much for granted that we never let them know we appreciate them."
This statement really hit home for me. I really like this statement because you can interchange the word, spouse for brother, sister, mom, dad or even friend.
One of Jarrod's (my husband) "jobs" in the house is to do the dishes so I can get to work on business or volleyball right after dinner. He does dishes so often that sometimes I go a whole week without saying "thank you" to him for doing the dishes. Even though dishes are pretty simple, it is something worth appreciating. If you really think about it; isn't it the small things that are done all the time, the things that make our lives easier. It is easy to thank someone for a gesture done out of the ordinary, like a gift, because it is unexpected. But doesn't everybody do that. We are trying to be unlike other people. If you are the only one at work saying thank you on a reagular basis, do you think you might be the first to get a raise or a larger bonus...? It may not, but this is something so easy to do and also easy not to do. Therefore most people don't! What if this did work...? This may not get you the raise or the bonus, but it is a start; and if you start small and grow from that, the next thing you do might be the tipping point for what you want.
Make a concious effort to make this change. It will make you feel better :)
One of Jarrod's (my husband) "jobs" in the house is to do the dishes so I can get to work on business or volleyball right after dinner. He does dishes so often that sometimes I go a whole week without saying "thank you" to him for doing the dishes. Even though dishes are pretty simple, it is something worth appreciating. If you really think about it; isn't it the small things that are done all the time, the things that make our lives easier. It is easy to thank someone for a gesture done out of the ordinary, like a gift, because it is unexpected. But doesn't everybody do that. We are trying to be unlike other people. If you are the only one at work saying thank you on a reagular basis, do you think you might be the first to get a raise or a larger bonus...? It may not, but this is something so easy to do and also easy not to do. Therefore most people don't! What if this did work...? This may not get you the raise or the bonus, but it is a start; and if you start small and grow from that, the next thing you do might be the tipping point for what you want.
Make a concious effort to make this change. It will make you feel better :)
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